Occasionally there will come bad days as well as good days. Moreover, depending on who you are, you’ll handle your “business” and the situation the way it fits you. You’ll go through various emotions, mind-sets and thoughts depending on the matter in hand.
Depression is something that’s always going to be a part of me and my journey in life. At times, I am able to drag it with me, like a badge of honor and there are times I just surrender and cave in. I’ve accepted the fact even if it took some strenuous steps to get so far.
You know the saying…
“The only difference between a good day and a bad day is your attitude.”
The quote is supposed to inspire or motivate in some way. And in a sense it does – depending on the bad day, the person experiencing it and the cause of ones bad day. I will admit that at times all it takes is a little attitude adjustment.
However, the course of life with the ups and downs is very much a part of life. I would love to meet a living human being who’s never experienced a bad day.
Going through our downs we seek to understand. We seek reasons or explanation for every lows and rock bottoms.
Over the years, I’ve become a pro at diagnosing my bad days and seek for any (comforting/acceptable) explanations.
The first round I go through consists of finding the reasons and cause of my bad day/mood. That’s when the elimination game begins.
For physical reasons, time may hold the answers.
I check the calendar for it offers some obvious reasons, such as a hormonal one. If that’s the case, I prepare my husband for a stormy atmosphere and stack up all emergency kit, comfort food included. Next I check the time – when were the last time I ate. I get cranky and moody when I’m hungry which results in me having a bad. Then food is the answer.
Then there are those bad days an attitude adjustment won’t do – that means I’m in too deep. Basically, I’m in an emotional roller coaster – the disaster kind.
– Everything seems pointless/meaningless.
– The-end-of-the-world outlook on life.
– The blame game.
The good days reminds us that life is not all bad. The bad days teaches us to fight and through our struggles we have to make the best of it all.
I’ve learned to:
– Accept the situation for what it is. Accept what you’re feeling and the reality of it. Don’t undermined yourself and your emotions.
– Feel it! Don’t be afraid to feel your emotions. Don’t put a lock on it – feel it. Feeling it all shows you’re alive, no matter how painful it might be.
– Understand what you’re feeling and going through. If you can’t understand it, find someone who will. Reach out!
– Express it. Don’t keep it all bottled up. Put it to words – be it written and/or spoken words. Express yourself!
– Appreciate the good moments. Life does not only consist of days. We also have moments and it’s easy to lose track of those good/positive moments. A simple hello from a stranger. A moment when someone made you laugh. A nice gesture from a love one.
There are good days and there are bad days – we learn, grow and evolve from it all.
Embrace the good but learn from the bad. Fight through, shine through – day by day.