8 Reasons Why Writing Feels Like Raising A Child

writing-childThere is an upside and downside to everything we choose to do, pursue or accomplish. Behind every choice we make, there is a good and a bad side. And for some weird and probably scientific reasons our mind tends to focus all too much on the bad whilst forgetting the good. However, in life, the sunny side of all good has a tendency to shine brighter even if we’re too blind to see the light.

Writing for me is of course a choice. When I am actually writing (read: without any struggle, sweat or tears!), I enjoy every moment of it. I guess, one could say I enjoy every moment of writing but not every aspect of writing.  Regardless, not writing is not even an option. And the struggles are often temporary. 

In for better and worse and as I continue to struggle and at times thrive, I’m starting to realize that writing feels a lot like raising a child – an extra family member which in a sense would make me a mother of three. And like having/raising a child, writing is full of joy and memorable moments but also moments I would like to pretend don’t exist.

1. You have to feed it by constantly writing, reading and feeding your creativity. You have to feed it ideas, lessons, tips and so on. It’s a never-ending process which you mostly learn by doing.


“If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all others;
read a lot and write a lot.”

– Stephen King


2. Just like you have to feed it, you also have to give it some t.l.c. (tender, love & care). Writing requires some attention and your time. You’ll have to put in a lot of hours – find or make the time to sit down and write. There is no way around it all!

3. A Time out – most of the time it’s for your own good and benefit.  And who needs it the most. When nothing seems to be working and worlds and opinions collide it’s time for a break to cool off, gather your thoughts and get back to work (also make up). One cannot simply quit being a parent at the first time of struggle or difficulties, the same goes with writing (if you’re serious about it!).

4. Writing is your pride and joy. There will come a day when you think you’ve written a masterpiece. How can anybody not agree with you?

5. The pain, the struggle. Who said giving birth was an easy task? Who said writing was going to be a walk in the park? Not a damn soul…


“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.”

– Ernest Hemingway


6. The sleepless nights. Don’t get me started…the voices, ideas, thoughts or characters that most times come at late hours and won’t let you go to sleep.

7. The worries and self doubt is constant, it’s always there lurking around. Am I good enough? Am I doing it right? What will others say or think?  It’s endless… 

8. Playdates. The occasion mandatory interaction with others (writers). Although, writing requires some alone time – to think and create, socializing can sometime be a necessity for the mind and soul. It’s an opportunity to get out of your bubble once in awhile and actually talk to (living) humans.


“What one writer can make in the solitude of one room is
something no power can easily destroy”

– Salman Rushdie

Go ahead and write but don’t forget to have fun. Happy Wednesday!



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